Don’t call me Cougar!
www.urbandictionary.com ’s “definition” of a Cougar:
An older woman who frequents clubs in order to score with a much younger man. The cougar can be anyone from an overly surgically altered wind tunnel victim, to an absolute sad and bloated old horn-meister, to a real hottie or milf. Cougars are gaining in popularity — particularly the true hotties — as young men find not only a sexual high, but many times a chick with her shit together.
That cougar I met last night, showed me shit I didn’t know existed, I’m goin back for more.
‘Kim Cattrall apparently declared to the world that her Sex and the City character, Samantha Jones is not a cougar.
Um… really? Because I’ve seen every episode and both movies so if Samantha Jones isn’t a cougar, who is?
As it turns out, some women find the term ‘cougar’ conjures up a negative image and a label.
Kim Cattrall points out, “I don’t see anything negative about Samantha and her sexuality, sensuality and choice.”
Yeah, yeah…
People are intimidated by women who know what they want or are confident with their own sexuality etc…
That’s not really what we’re talking about here. Let’s not mask sleeping with an 18 year old child with feminist uprising.
We’re not confusing women of childbearing years confidently expressing there sexuality with morally challenged older women lacking regard for an obvious age/generational boundary.
Women sleeping with men who are young enough to be their own children have a problem with being seen as ravenous predators?
Really?
Because when I see older men cruising for nubiles and/or exploiting the innocence of young girls I usually feel like stabbing them in the eye with a fork punching them out throwing up giving them a good stern talking to and I’m wondering what the difference between a cougar and a pedophile Dingo Elephant Seal Manther is exactly.
Am I being too intransigent? Maybe I shouldn’t knock it till I try it…
Jennifer-June of www.theladyslounge.com
Filed under Uncategorized | Tags: cougar, Kim catrall, Samantha Jones cougar, Sex and the City cougar, urban dictionary | Comment (0)Sex while pregnant
It is a myth that if a pregnant woman has heartburn her baby will have a head full of hair, that a mother who delivers a child with one or more birthmarks consumed too much of any given food or drink during her pregnancy and that having a bird fly into your home while you are pregnant is a sign that you will miscarry.
Fortunately, it is also a myth that you can tell what gender your baby will be by the way you are carrying your child, that holding your hands above your head will wrap the baby’s umbilical cord around his or her neck and that taking baths or swimming during pregnancy is harmful for the mother and her baby.
THANKFULLY, it is also a myth that having sex during pregnancy harms the baby.
Whether or not you are in the mood to do it is a whole other question.
Some mothers and even their partners have more difficulty adjusting to the changing shape and feeling of a pregnant body.
While some women may find that morning sickness, exhaustion, heightened sensitivity and tenderness turned them off sex, others experience heightened pleasure due to hormones, the increase in vaginal lubrication, increased blood flow to the pelvic area and subsequent engorgement of the genitals.
Some partners do experience a decreased libido if they concerned for the health mama and the baby, while others become increasingly attracted to their pregnant lovers and their beautiful womanly curves.
As a couple, it’s important that you discuss your feelings about sex honestly and openly with each other. If either of you do not feel like having sex, it’s equally important to continue to nurture the intimacy in your relationship in other ways. Cuddling, baths, massages, mutual masturbation, whatever you and your partner both feel comfortable with.
If both partners are enthusiastic about having sex during the pregnancy, unless considered *high risk, you’ve got a green light all the way up until the water breaks.
Remember, pregnancy is a condition, not a sickness, pregnant woman are beautiful sexy and strong and being pregnant means nine months of worry-free, uninterrupted sex. Enjoy it while you can!
* Conditions under which you should not have intercourse without the consent of your doctor:
* History of premature birth or labor
* Placenta Previa
* Vaginal bleeding
* You or your partner has an active sexually transmitted disease
* Your water has broken
Eating Under Stress
When we are under going change and stress in our lives, it is easy to forget to take care of ourselves physically as well as mentally.
You may find that you make poor nutritional choices, over-eat, skip meals or forget to eat all together.
I know that I have managed to convince myself more than once that popcorn is a perfectly acceptable supper and have certainly gone days where it is 10 pm before I notice that I haven’t eating a thing all day.
I’ve also had those days where it seemed that the only thing I could muster up the energy to do was eat…and eat…and eat.
Here are some tips to help you keep on track.
Become aware of your emotional triggers for eating. The next time you find yourself reaching into the fridge or pantry, ask yourself why you are eating. Are you avoiding? Find a healthier distraction, go for a walk, call a friend, make yourself a cup of herbal tea etc…
Feeling neglected? Pamper yourself with a bubble bath, a nap, a good book or other activity that you don’t associate with food.
Drink a glass of water. Sometimes our bodies mistake the feeling of dehydration for hunger.
Be mindful of what you are consuming. Do you really want it? Are you truly experiencing and enjoying it?
Eating foods such as fruits, vegetables, and whole grains in their natural state is ideal for avoiding mood swings.
Stay hydrated. Dehydration is a major factor affecting mood swings.
Bananas! Bananas are packed with both serotonin and dopamine, which decrease mood swings and depression.
Limit caffeine, alcohol and sugar. Caffeine and alcohol are both diuretics and tend to dehydrate the body. Alcohol is a depressant and sugar brings on a “sugar-high” usually followed by the “sugar-blues”. You don’t need any of that.
If you’re hungry, eat well. Find healthy substitutes for your cravings.
If you are not hungry, try having a few small healthy meals and snacks throughout the day instead of turning yourself off of food by sitting down to a giant plate of pasta or greasy take-out.
Don’t completely deprive yourself. Vitamin deficiency (especially C and B vitamins!!)
can contribute to depression on mood swings, which is the last thing you need right now.
Here is a healthy treat packed with calcium, vitamin C and beta carotene.
* 1 Banana – split lengthwise
* berries, melon, kiwi, pineapple, mango and/or any other fruit you enjoy
* 1 Scoop non-fat frozen yogurt, soy yogurt or fruit juice sweetened sorbet
* Optional toppings could include, chopped nuts, coconut, dried fruit etc…
Preparation:
Place the scoop of yogurt in a bowl. Place the banana pieces on either side of the yogurt or sorbet and spoon on the fruit. Enjoy!
You Are Not Alone
I would like to introduce you to my mother, Mf Daisy. She is an amazing woman,
and here is one of the many reasons why: Marie-France wrote a song called You Are Not Alone and donated it as
an anthem to the Fistula Foundation. She also applied for a grant to fund a project so that all proceeds of her album would go to the fistula foundation.
Her project was not funded, (somebody else won the grant) but as a result of her application, $10,000 was donated to the foundation by the association to whom she applied.
You can go to her myspace page, send her a message of support, listen to her song and even download the Anthem here: www.myspace.com/mfdaisy
All proceeds go to The Fistual Foundation.
What is Fistula? ( http://www.fistulafoundation.org )
A fistula is simply a hole between an internal organ and the outside world that should not exist. There are two primary causes of fistula in women in developing countries: childbirth, causing obstetric fistula and sexual violence, causing traumatic fistula
Obstetric fistula the most devastating of all childbirth injuries
An obstetric fistula develops when blood supply to the tissues of the vagina and the bladder (and/or rectum) is cut off during prolonged obstructed labor. The tissues die and a hole forms through which urine and/or feces pass uncontrollably. Women who develop fistulas are often abandoned by their husbands, rejected by their communities, and forced to live an isolated existence.
More than two million women live with fistula
Eradicated in western countries at the end of the 19th century when cesarean section became widely available, obstetric fistula continues to plague women throughout the developing world. It is estimated that there are 100,000 new fistula cases each year, but the international capacity to treat fistula remains at only 6,500 per year. The United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA) estimates the world’s population of fistula sufferers at more than two million.
Nerve damage and psychological trauma
The WHO has called fistula “the single most dramatic aftermath of neglected childbirth”. In addition to complete incontinence, a fistula victim may develop nerve damage to the lower extremities after a multi-day labor in a squatting position. Fistula victims also suffer profound psychological trauma resulting from their utter loss of status and dignity.
Traumatic fistula — when rape is used as a tool of war
The consequences of fistula are life altering when the injury goes unrepaired. In Congo, rape is being used as a tool of war on a massive scale. The result is often traumatic fistulas, that is holes in bladders, vagina and rectum that are caused by rape or attack using bayonets, wood, and even guns. The Economist magazine recently estimated that 80% of the fistula cases in the Congo were the result of sexual violence. For the women with the injury, they are still very much in need of treatment, and psychological counseling as well. The Panzi Hospital in the Congo, founded by Congolese gynecologist Denis Mukwege is a pioneer in helping these victims of rape.
Please go to the Fistula Foudation site to show your support: http://www.fistulafoundation.org
And remember to have a listen to MF Daisy’s Song, You are not alone: www.myspace.com/mfdaisy
The Kind Diet
I made a purchase recently that I just had to share with you. Alicia Silverstone’s book, the Kind Diet ( A simple guide to feeling great, losing weight, and saving the planet).
Alicia is an Actress, perhaps best known for her role in Clueless. She is a dedicated an avid environment and animal activist and was voted “Sexiest Vegetarian Alive” in 2004. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband, Christopher, and their four rescued dogs AND she is the author or this fantastic book; informative, inspiring and full of delicious meat-and dairy-free recipes.
In The Kind Diet Alicia shares the insights that inspired her to swear off meat and dairy, and the subsequent benefits, such as effortless weight loss clear skin, improved general health, increased energy, and dramatically improved digestion, to name a few.
The Kind Diet addresses how we have been influenced by the meat and dairy industries and the impacted this has on our health and environment, the disconnect between how we feel and what we eat, our relationship with the animals we eat etc…
Alicia also provides some excellent nutritional information and advice.
For example, I was surprised to read that while Whole milk provides 118 milligrams of Calcium per 100 gram serving, Chickpeas (garbanzo beans) have 150, soy beans 226, almonds 234, sesame seeds 1,160 and Hijiki 1, 1400. Who knew?
The Kind Diet encompasses 3 separate levels, Flirting, vegan and Superhero. Flirting is a commitment free opportunity to learn to reduce meat-eating and experiment with some new foods that you might never have tried before. Vegans forgo animal-products entirely, while still enjoying many convenience foods and meat substitutes. The Superhero plan is based in part on the principles of a macrobiotic diet, essentially fresh whole foods, grown locally and in season.
The book is informative and inspiring, the photos are lovely and Alicia is so adorable I could scream.
I strongly encourage anyone and everyone, vegetarians and carnivores alike, to check out The Kind Diet. We have tried many of the recipes and loved loved loved them all!
diet: (noun) a way of living, or thinking, a day’s journey
“This was the definition of diet when it entered the English language in the mid-1600s. So simple! So sane! How did this cute little word become synonymous with deprivation, suffering, and—let’s be honest—total hell?” – Alicia Silverstone
Alicia’s Chocolate Peanut Butter Cups
1/2 c Earth Balance natural spread (dairy-free butter)
3/4 c crunchy peanut butter (preferably natural, unsweetened, and unsalted)
3/4 c graham cracker crumbs or 10 graham cracker squares, crushed
1/4 c maple sugar or other granulated sweetener
1 c grain-sweetened nondairy chocolate or carob chips
1/4 c soy, rice, or nut milk
1/4 c chopped pecans, almonds, or peanuts
1. Line a 12-cup muffin tin with paper liners. (Find out where to buy unbleached liners at ifyoucare.com.) Set the tin aside.
2. Melt the butter in a small saucepan over medium heat. Stir in the peanut butter, graham cracker crumbs, and maple sugar; mix well. Remove the mixture from the heat. Divide mixture evenly (about 2 tablespoons per cup) among the muffin cups.
3. Combine the chocolate and milk in another pan. Stir over medium heat until the chocolate has melted. Spoon the chocolate evenly over the peanut butter mixture. Top with chopped nuts. Place in the refrigerator to set for at least 2 hours before serving.
Makes 12.
The Kind Diet: A Simple Guide To Feeling Great, Losing Weight, and Saving The Planet, by Alicia Silverstone, Rodale, 2009.
Cheesy, Oozy Guacamole Bean Dip
* 1 can (16 ounces) refried beans
* 3 large avocados
* 3 Tbsp. fresh lime juice
* 2 containers (8 ounces) nondairy sour cream
* 1 packet taco seasoning
* 1/2 cup diced mild green chiles , drained
* 1/2 cup sliced black olives , or more if you like
* 5 tomatoes , chopped
* 2 cups shredded vegan cheddar cheese
Directions:
Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F.
Spread a layer of refried beans in the bottom of an 8×8 quart glass baking dish. Pit and peel the avocados, and place in a bowl. Mash the avocados together with the lime juice, and spread on top of the refried beans. Stir together the sour cream and taco seasoning, and spread over the avocado.
Sprinkle the chiles over the sour cream, and top with a layer of black olives. Add the tomatoes and sprinkle with the cheese. Heat the dip for 15 to 30 minutes or until heated through and the cheese is a bit melted.
Serve warm or at room temperature.
Note: We use Bearitos organic taco seasoning, but it does contain a touch of cane sugar. If you’re avoiding all white sugar, make your own by combining chili powder, ground cumin, onion powder, hot paprika or cayenne, and salt.
Variation:
For chips, there are some pretty healthy baked organic tortilla chips on the market, but you can also make your own by cutting up Ezekiel sprouted grain tortillas and baking them in the oven until crisp or dry-roasting them in a frying pan.
The Kind Diet by Alicia Silverstone. Published by Rodale Books. © 2009
Women in History
I once heard a woman say to somebody that she was only one woman and not impressionable or influential enough to make a difference on her own.
In response a man quoted “If you think you are too small to make an impression, you’ve clearly never been
trapped in a sleeping bag with a mosquito”.
Here is a little reminder of just how capable, strong and impressionable women can be.
40 A.D-The Trung sisters led the first national uprising against the Chinese, who had conquered them.
1429 – Joan of Arc, a sixteen-year-old peasant girl commanded the French arm in several victorious battles to liberate France from the English. She was burned a the stake as a relapsed heretic.
1777 – Sybil Ludington rode all night through Putnam and Dutchess Counties to warn the militia that British troops were burning Danbury, Connecticut.
1800’s – Sacagawea was sold to the Mandan Indians who kept her enslaved until they gambled her off to French-Canadian fur trader, Toussaint Charbonneau. He forced her to become his dutiful wife after winning her in a game of chance with the Mandan Indians he lived among. A girl of about 16 years old when Lewis and Clark met her at Fort Mandan in North Dakota territory. She joined their expedition as an interpreter, Diplomat, and a peace symbol, and carried her child on her back for the entire trip, spanning thousands of miles.
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1861 – Dorothea Dix, crusader of rights for the mentally ill in North America and Europe, founded or improved over thirty hospitals for the mentally ill and influenced government legislation with her research and was appointed first Superintendent of U.S. Army Nurses.
1850 – Araminta Ross/Harriet Tubman was and American bondwoman who escaped from slavery in the South to become a leading abolitionist before the American Civil War. She led hundreds of bondsmen to freedom in the North along the route of the Underground Railroad—an elaborate secret network of safe houses organized for that purpose.
Marie Curie was a Polish-born French physicist, famous for her work on radioactivity and twice a winner of the Nobel Prize. She was the first woman to win a Nobel Prize, and she is the only woman to win the award in two different fields. With Henri Becquerel and her husband, Pierre Curie, she was awarded the 1903 Nobel Prize for Physics. She was the sole winner of the 1911 Nobel Prize for Chemistry.
1912 – Henrietta Swan Leavitt discovered the period luminosity relationship which was later used to calculate the distances between the earth and the stars.
1955 – Rosa Parks Refused to give up her seat on a city bus to a white man in Montgomery, Alabama, this hardworking seamstress set off a thirteen month bus boycott and a long chain of civil rights protests. The result was the national attention of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and a Supreme Court ruling outlawing segregation on buses.
1916 – Margaret Sanger, American birth control activist, advocate of eugenics, and the founder of the American Birth Control League, set up the first birth control clinic in the United States.
1922 – Gabrielle Chanel was born into poverty in the French countryside; her mother died, and her father abandoned her to an orphanage. She grew up to be the French fashion designer who ruled over Parisian haute couture for almost six decades and created the phenomenally successful perfume Chanel No. 5.
1932 – Amelia Earhart was the first woman to receive the Distinguished Flying Cross, awarded for becoming the first aviatrix to fly solo across the Atlantic Ocean and has been missing since her attempt to make a circumnavigational flight of the globe, July 2, 1937.
2003 – Shirin Ebadi, an Iranian lawyer, writer, and teacher, received the Nobel Prize for Peace in 2003 for her efforts to promote democracy and human rights, especially those of women and children in Iran. She was the first Muslim woman and the first Iranian to receive the award.
Present – Oprah Winfrey, was born into poverty in rural Mississippi to a teenage single mother on welfare. Winfrey became a millionaire at age 32, is an American television host, producer, and philanthropist, She has been ranked the richest African American of the 20th century, the greatest black philanthropist in American history, and was once the world’s only black billionaire. She started The Oprah Winfrey Leadership Academy for Girls in South Africa and is a huge advocate and raises awareness for many global causes.
To name a few but the list goes on and on…
Feel free to add to it!
